Wednesday, October 12, 2011

28 Minutes

I have set a goal for myself that I have to admit excites me and scares me at the same time.

On January 21st, 2012, I will be running the Seasons 52 5.2K. It will be the third time that I run this race but this time, I'm taking my training seriously. I know my goal would be easy for some but it would make me feel so accomplished.

I want to run the race in 28 minutes or less.


One of the great things about Track Shack races is that you can look up your race time history for any race you've run with them. Here is the history they have available for me:

1/24/2009 - Seasons 52 5.2K - 36:29
2/6/2010 - Lady Track Shack 5K - 33:45
4/24/2010 - Run for the Trees - 32:27
1/22/2011 - Seasons 52 5.2K - 32:58
4/23/2011 - Run for the Trees - 30:45


I was bummed because this last Run for the Trees, I really wanted to run it in less than 30 minutes. And I think I would have done it but I got a cramp about half way through. The only other time I can remember getting a cramp running was during the previous year's Run for the Trees. What is up with that?!

Regardless, I am proud that at least for these races that I have record of, my time is slowly getting better. So I have a plan in place that will hopefully get me to 28 minutes in January. I figured if I said it on here, it might as well be set in stone that I have to work towards this goal.

Any advice is greatly appreciated!!



**My favorite race memory - the Disney Princess Half Marathon with my mom!**

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Potatoes, Eggs, or Coffee?

I can't take credit for this story - I received it this morning from our Human Resources Manager and I loved it. Enjoy :)

Potatoes, Eggs, or Coffee?


Once upon a time, there was a young woman. Her life was full of tribulations and complications. She wanted to give up this constant struggle and spend a serene life. It seemed as one problem solved a new one arose. She went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed potatoes, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about 20 minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the potatoes out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what you see.”

“Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the potatoes. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. She asked her mother in puzzlement, “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently.

The potato went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg or a coffee bean?”

Now ask yourself: Are you the potato that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do you become soft and lose your strength?

Are you the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did you have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have you become hardened and stiff? Does your shell look the same, but on the inside are you bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or are you like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. Are you like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level?

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

If You Are Happy And You Know It...

I fully admit that over the past few months (ok, actually, for quite a while), I have relied on my happiness coming from a place that clearly wasn't permanent. My joy and spirit slipped away. Tears became a daily occurrence. Frustration has built as I try to figure out why I'm not feeling better.

So I decided I needed to do something. Even if it was small. I've learned that I have a choice: either I need to change what I want or change what I'm doing. I needed to find a way to remind myself on a daily basis that I am blessed way more than I even deserve. I knew there were things that were happening in my life that made me smile on a daily basis. If I could find a way to celebrate those moments, perhaps I would begin to understand that I am the one in control of my perspective.

Hence, MyHappyMoment was born.

The premise is easy: focus on the good not the bad, the happy not the sad,
the positive not the negative.

Just once a day is easy enough for everyone.
I think a positive attitude is infectious and contagious.


What I love about this movement is that when I sit down to think of what "today's happy moment" is going to be, I have several to choose from. That is definitely not what I expected. I am very excited to see the affect this daily exercise has on my outlook on life. I hope it influences others as well. As I get more enthused about MyHappyMoment, I think of more and more ideas to infuse a little happiness into the lives of the people around me. So get on board!



There is nothing more important in life than sharing
a little joy with the people you love!

**Follow MyHappyMoment on Twitter and start sharing your daily happy moment!**

Sunday, September 18, 2011

An Ode to Dog Owners

I learned a very tough lesson...

Being a dog lover does not mean I am ready to be a dog owner.

Remember my post about learning things the hard way (or really, the only way)? Well, that was definitely the case this time.

I spent two weeks with the cutest, sweetest, and smartest puppy I have ever met. And even with all the joy she brought to my life, like greeting me with so much love when I walked in the door, I had to be honest with myself and realize that I'm not ready to have a puppy. This decision was not easy to come to at all. Even thinking about not having her caused me to cry. The type of crying where you can barely breathe. I do know that I tried everything to convince myself that we would be okay together. But at the end of the day, I didn't want to have to convince myself. For so many reasons, too many to even get into right now, I wasn't ready.

And to all of the dog owners reading this, I admire you.

You have to be caring because something is depending on you to survive.

You have to be selfless because inevitably you will have to
give some things up for your furry friend.

You have to be patient to train the puppy, even when you want to be
mad when you see a new wet spot on the carpet.

You have to be willing to get up in the
middle of the night when they have to potty.

You have to be responsible in making sure the dog gets enough
food, water, exercise, and quality time with you.

All in all, you have to be able to love with all of your heart.


I know one day, I will be able to be all of these things. But for now, I will cherish the memories I have of Lily and know that I tried to make a decision that was best for both of us.


...I miss you Lily girl...

Monday, August 29, 2011

"Mind-Reader-Itis"...Yikes!

Every morning when I'm getting ready for work I listen to a local morning show. Many times their topics revolve around relationships and this morning was no different. They were talking about one of my favorite things:

The Chick Flick


Have you ever noticed the typical line up of programming on TV over the weekend? It's like a romantic comedy marathon. One weekend about three weeks ago, I found myself vegging out on my couch and I watched not one, not two, but FIVE chick flicks in a span of two days. They were:

  • The Proposal

  • Bride Wars

  • How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days

  • The Notebook

  • Sweet Home Alabama


I loved it and hated it at the same time. Ok, I admit, I loved it way more than I hated it. Nevertheless, while I love a romantic comedy as much as the next girl, I know they are unrealistic. I mean, would this ever really happen??



That scene just makes me smile. (side note: can I have a Ryan Gosling please?)

Ok one more of my favorite scenes (see - I already got side tracked from what I was talking about because I love this movie so much):



Researchers from a university in Scotland actually did a study on this (source) and found out that chick flicks can create unrealistic expectations for love and relationships, especially when it comes to communication (surprise surprise).

The study indicated that women develop "mind-reader-itis" which means that expect their partner to know what they want or how they are feeling without having to tell them. That all of sudden, they will know exactly what to do. I'm not going to lie - I know I've had unrealistic expectations. I want my own Noah and unfortunately, the chances of that are slim. I have to understand and know myself first before I can be successful in a relationship. I can't expect a guy to know more about me than what I know about myself. And if I want to be in a committed, loving relationship, I have to be able to communicate what I want, why I do what I do, and why I feel the way I do. And, of course, hope that my man will do the same in return.

So I need to move forward knowing that I will be watching romantic comedies simply for the entertainment value. But I think one important lesson can be learned from chick flicks: never settle for less than everything you want! I may not get Noah but I will find love!

Saturday, August 27, 2011

When God Gives You A Quarter...

Earlier this month I posted this on facebook:



I feel like this has been happening quite often for me lately. I find a quarter when I need it most. In a passing conversation, someone says something I've been needing to hear. Or they say something that answers a question that I haven't even asked out loud.

Like yesterday, I met with an amazing professor where I work. The purpose for our meeting was to talk about her programming in the halls. Somehow we started chatting about life and love. She said that falling in love happens when you least expect it. It is not something that can be forced. I know that is something that is said often but it speaks so clearly to what has been on my mind and it was such an unexpected conversation. I can only explain it by saying I must have been meant to hear that message yesterday.

She also said that we live in such a fast paced life and put so much pressure on ourselves to be always going going going. It is just as important to stop and breathe. And allowing for those silent moments will actually prepare you to be more present in your life and enjoy the fast paced moments instead of being overwhelmed by stress and pressure. This conversation happened the day after I spent some time talking with my mom about my habit of list making and how much anxiety it brings me to have to complete the list. So she was my cheerleader as I deleted all of my lists (yes, there were multiple). I already feel more free and the conversation with that professor just confirmed that I was moving in the right direction.

When you are going through a challenging time in life one thing that I know is bound to happen is your faith is tested. It's during these times that you really find out where your strength and foundation lie. I know it would be just as easy to explain it as coincidence. But being able to recognize these moments of confirmation allows me to stay strong and know that God is with me.


Wednesday, August 24, 2011

I'll Take The Hard Way...

Have you ever heard the expression
"I had to learn that the hard way"?


I've said it so many times until one day I stopped to think about what it means. Typically people use the expression about experiences that changed them or helped them grow or challenged them. Learning something the hard way implies there is an easy way to learn these important lessons. Now don't get me wrong, I do think we can gain knowledge through other people's lives or reading books and articles. But for something to sink in, you have to go through it yourself. I mean think about it. When someone was sharing with you a life lesson or giving advice, have they ever said "and I learned that the easy way!"? My guess would be no. I for sure haven't heard that. So my theory is that it's not the "hard way" but the "only way."

I know that expression isn't going away any time soon so bring on the "hard way." I want to continue learning and growing as much as I can. I welcome the situations that challenge me because while it may be uncomfortable in the moment, I'm a better, stronger person on the other side.